Parenting and Manhood

There are a ton of books being published every year for new parents. Some of the books focus on the practicalities of becoming a parent, whilst other focus more on the spiritual side of it all. Every parent is, or at least should be, a disciple maker. A Christian parents job is to bring up their children in the way of the Lord, to both speak and demonstrate to them what a God glorifying life looks like. Tall order? Absolutely! But there are great resources out there to help…

The Manhood Journey by Kent Evans

The Manhood JourneySetting a Course for Godly Fatherhood

I’ll be honest, when I first picked up this book I gave a hard mental face palm. “Another book on so called ‘manhood’ do we really need more macho promoting books?!?” Rest assured, I was wrong. This book is not pushing a macho mentality of alpha male pride, but it upholds the Biblical calling for fathers to be disciple makers of their families.

A father is a role model, someone who should demonstrate to their children what it means to live, love and lead. Evans draws out what exactly that godly leadership of the home should look like in regards to marriage, faith, evangelism and serving in the local church.

This book is for men who want to lead their homes well, who want to raise their children in the way of the Lord and who want to be the best disciples making dads they can be. Each chapter is full of practical tips, challenging quotes and passages of Scripture and a reminder that we need the Lord’s help every step of the way.

Evans doesn’t promote an unhealthy form of masculinity, but he unpacks what it could look like for a father to point their family to Jesus as often as possible. There are some cracking quotes in the book too, here are a few…

“Biblical fatherhood cannot be outsourced”

“Fatherhood is an ongoing sanctification process that requires daily submission, work, patience and recalibration”

“Every time I fail to live up to the godly dad standard, I get a new chance to describe this amazing God who gives me grace even though I blow it”

“One of our primary tools in the biblical fatherhood toolbox must be a solid command of Scripture. We need to know what it says and how to faithfully apply it to our daily lives. It’s essential we’re armed and ready with God’s Word”

“You are the spiritual captain for your family. A crucial tool you’ll need along the journey is knowing how to pray for and with your family”

I am not a father, but I was seriously challenged by this book. If I ever become a father, I will certainly return to it as I consider how to lead children well. Buy this book, you will not be disappointed and you will be spurred on to disciple your family better. Grab a copy here from Christian Focus.

Parenting Essentials by Andreas & Margaret Köstenberger

Parenting EssentialsEquipping Your Children for Life

This book has a lot of good stuff in it, helpful advice and good quotes for parents to hold on to. It contains biblical truths, encouragements for parents and theological concepts that will help you navigate the stormy waters of bringing up a child.

The authors have written from their own culture and context, which is understandable and to be expected. However, that does means that there will be elements of this book that you don’t necessarily agree with (For example, homeschooling, marriage, discipline, etc.). There are helpful tips and ideas on how to go about raising children in this world, how to disciple them and how to model Christian mission to them.

It is always a good sign, on a parenting book, if the child of the authors endorses it. Here is what their son David says about it;
“My parents wrote this parenting book. Spoiler: they’re regular parents. And while they aren’t perfect, they sure did care for and invest in me. I turned out alright if I may say so myself – so give this book a read. I think you’ll find it to be an invaluable resource for you as you cope with your crazy kids. All that said, I give this book the official child–approved stamp!”

This book is designed to help young parents think about what their new role entails and I do think it could be a help to you. It probably would not be my go to, but it has a lot of helpful material in it. The book lays the biblical principles and foundations of what the God given role of a parent is. You can buy the book here.

Andreas Köstenberger is Research Professor of New Testament & Biblical Theology and Director of the Center for Biblical Studies at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary and founder of Biblical Foundations.

Margaret Köstenberger is Associate Professor of Theology & Women’s Ministry and Faculty Coordinator of Women’s Ministry Programs at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.

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